Hey Ali, Your story is an absolute help for me in my understanding of what is going on in my W’s head. I mean I’ve had a look at W’s txt mate on FB and he’s a hundred miles from the type that she would go for. I showed his picture to a friend and the reaction was “OMG, WTF is W playing at”. I don’t think there is a sexual attraction on W part, I think this guy unloads his problems onto W and I think W discusses some of the things she feels she can’t discuss with me, but if friendships like this go unchecked who knows what may happen. Also like your BF did with you, I’ve told W, this is, I’ve have enough, and I’ve done it with uncharacteristic determination so for her it is a real wake up call.
On the other matter, I think it was a massive step for W to admit to what the problem was, looking back now I can see life has been a big charade of sexual avoidance on her part. I’m not sure where her negative images on sex come from but I hope that will come out when we continue to talk, and at the moment she is willing to talk.
