Sorry to hear of the developments over the last couple of days Mb.
What's done is done, but the M may not be as done as you think. It's up to you. You've confronted, and as Puppy and Gucci already advised, you do not get many (if any) second chances now. The next round of exposure to OWH and others will be critical. I think you did very well; it's immensely difficult to stay calm doing what you did.
H's abuse and reaction is all par for the course. His cozy fantasy world may not be all that fantastic once OW and her H gets the news.
Stay strong, continue to GAL and detach; ignore the venom and spew likely to come from H. I'm not sure what you meant by posting you "will not use that against H in legal proceedings" but right now is not the time to be weak.
Me 42 W 39 Married: 11 Jan 1998, T: Since 1992 First Bomb: Sep 2007 Confirmed A/OM: 4 Nov 2007 Kids: D10, S5 Reconciled and together again after (alot of) time and heartbreak. 3rd kid, S, born 2 Jan 2010.
