Just want my H back

[pearlharbr]

First of all, ^^ what 25 said! I wholeheartedly believe you need to discuss this with a lawyer. Go in for an interview, ask all the appropriate questions so you know what your options are. Knowledge is power. Do not give up your power because you want H to like you. That is not something a woman only a fool would leave would do. I saw a lawyer to find out what my legal standing was and I felt SO empowered after the meeting.

I would love it if you just gave up this idea of having a nice friendly dinner with H. I know you want to do it to show him how much you've changed in hopes that he will change his mind. I think you'll end up in R talk and that will set you back so much. Please rethink this dinner. It's something that should be done ONLY if you are detached and you can approach the sitch without emotion. Heck, even when BF wanted to reconcile I put him off for a month because I wasn't ready to see him in person. You can still communicate via email. That allows you to wait at least 48 hours before responding, compose your thoughts, and even get input from people here before saying anything that you may regret later.