It can be lonely. I'm one of the lucky ones. I have my D's 24/7. At least until they're grown. Of course that also means that all that comes with them is on me too. I will say that H is trying to be there for them. Mostly I think it twists the perspective the girls have. We'll see.
I thought his remark about "not talking" was interesting too. Then again mine isn't a talker.
I do hope to manage to get through tax season without any big issues cropping up.
Have you asked your D12 what she means by you bring him up too much? And what that means to her? I find my D's insights are really fascinating at times.