Allen A you couldn't have said it better. (he's going to be throwing smoke screens at you right now... its just instincts and you need to stop analysing it).
So I just got home from work and getting ready for the gym and I got another text from him saying, "When you get a chance we need to talk about you coming out here. I don't think it's a good idea, doesn't work with my schedule I might have to work out in LA that weekend."
I was sooooo livid I wanted to go postal but I held it together and called him. He went on to say that he might have to be in LA that weekend after all and he would keep me posted. I explained to him that I've already paid for my ticket and a hotel room and that I felt like if he TRULY did not want me to come out there he didn't have to hide behind his job. I also told him that I felt pretty bad about having already paid and now everything's on the fence. It's not like I didn't get his buy in first. I sent him a card and I called him before notifying my job that I would be taking President's Day off. That's pretty pathetic if that's the only thing he can come up with a day after.
Then he says well since you've already booked everything our plans are still on and that he would call me if things changed. Again I gave him the opportunity and told him I respect the fact if he doesn't want to see me but feel it's awfully mean and cruel to wait until after I've made all the arrangements.
I'm certain he's gone to the Channel 6 news and broadcasted it to anyone who will listen and that's the only excuse he could come up with.
I'm almost at my breaking point! However, I was firm and held myself together. I didn't cry, didn't beg. Just stated how I felt and that I would respect him even more for being honest and not making up lame excuses after the fact. All he had to do is tell his job that his wife was flying in to Sacramento and can't change her plans. It's BS like that....which led me to the A in the first place.
