Where in the world did that come from !!!

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My previous post was a "This is what I want to say to her" post, I haven't said or sent anything yet, just being quiet for now.

So where we are is this: I told W last week I knew about A and that I was willing to work on M if she stopped A cold turkey. If not, would not be her friend and her stuff goes from the house - which some of it did and I got rid of the rest (she doesn't know that yet though).

The 3 kids know about A and are not happy about it, but it seems not phased enough to say anything to her about it. I know I shouldn't get the kids involved, but I agree with you, especially about D17 telling her what she feels. That would shock the pants off her more than the Sons.

As for the late nite texting, that was a red herring, W actually texted D17 at 5pm, D17 didn't read it till 3am (they're on holidays and have become nocturnal) and when she replied W re replied straight away. Interesting that W is awake at 3am though. Coincidentally I was awake then and on the .Alt, where W was signed on too.

The grass not being greener part, W is paying 1/5th of her salary to me in Child Support, paying for a rented house and having to travel lots of miles to be with OM and back to BIL's to keep up appearances. Financially she must be hurting but obviously not enough.

Emotionally she is pretty much unaware of how the kids feel about her whole wierdness, and she knows there is every chance we will have to sell the house we lovingly built ourselves for just the value of the land.

The grass is certainly not greener for her with where she is now, but really hard to see her making any changes short term at least unless something almost catastrophic happened.


As for giving advice, I guess when you read about as many of the sad and sorry things we all talk about here, the things that work become pretty self evident as do the things that don't. I really appreciate you saying that

Thanks.