Looking for Advice

[gutwrenching]

If you are living in the same house and there is no looming threat of D, work on being the kind of person who want to be, and that your spouse wants to be with.

Thanks Trent. We are living in the same house, no one has gone to a lawyer, W has talked about D and is certainly leaning that direction, but she has not acted. Has not made up her mind.

For the others - I bought the 5LL book - found it at a quick stop at a close store.
I'm still debating right approach on hotel for this weekend. Will see how things go tonight. Option A is to book the hotel and sell with low threat approach and Option B is to ask if she would be willing using a low threat approach.
Even if NOTHING happens, which is my expectation, just getting away I think would do us both a world of good. But she is so resistant because she feels nothing and doesn't want to send me a wrong signal (these are 2 things she has told me...of course I can't necessarily believe them).

Going to watch for what works tonight. Last night I tried something a bit on the flirting side and a little fun and poked her playfully in the shoulder over it and got a positive reaction. Then I almost immediately stopped and got things back to normal...didn't push at all...that seemed to have worked very well. Got to take advantage of those types of opportunities.