It's the end of the world as we know it, & I feel-

[BobbiJo]

Wow...thank you guys, that means so much to me...remember that when I start calling you!


So, what did I learn in school today? (IC)


I cannot save him.

I cannot fix him.

I cannot rescue him.



I CAN stop shielding him from the natural conseqences of his decisions, and let him deal with the fallout himself.

I CAN draw and enforce boundaries to protect myself.

I CAN allow him to sink deeper into his self-pity hole, and let him hold all responsibility in climbing back up.

I CAN ignore all texts/emails/calls that do not pertain to our children's well-being.

I CAN write up a February schedule, make it work for ME, and let him deal with his days, on his own.

I CAN allow myself to feel the anger and let it out, (not at Dan) instead of only allowing myself to feel sadness, fear, and anxiety.

I CAN allow my kids to be let down by their dad instead of rushing in all the time to compensate. (This one will be HARD)

I CAN refrain from reaching out to him in any form or fashion, in moments of weakness when I desire a connection. (Hard again)

I can best love him, and myself, by walking away from the merry-go-round and refusing to help perpetuate this cycle of interactions we have created.