Clv, My hat is off to you. You sound like you have a good handle on things, the attitude of her happiness first is a very mature, difficult and gut wrenching thing to do. I was reading a success story of Jack_Three_Beans, and he adopted the same attitude with his wife. He has been on the boards for a while so I have not read through his whole sitch.
Giving her lots of space and time is the way to go, the only thing I might recommend is not expect to be divorced. For me I have to keep hope alive, but if it helps you keep your distance then so be it.
The lack of interest started with the kids after started after my W met OM#2 and really hasn't changed since then. It is really unbelievable. However, my W doesn't have an apartment or condo, she rents a room in a house with the owner of the house (lady) and one other young girl (28) that rents the other room. There is no sleeping arrangements for the kids and not really a place they want to be. Welcome to Divorce!! but it really doesn't bother her, she has not responsibility what-so-ever, it is like she is back in college in a dorm.
Enjoy getting your master bed back, be ready for the weird stuff to start rolling in, she may even want you to know what she is doing so as to further push you away to lessen her guilt. Keep us posted.
Formerly "missherlove"
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Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.
