Not sure which way to go anymore

[Mystik]

Got this e-mail from H today.

I just got a call back from "For the People" which apparently is the new name for We the People. They found our information but they gave me a different price. There is no additional fee to complete the process and file for a separation. To switch over to filing for a divorce, they will need us to complete a different information booklet and there is a $100 fee charged by them to file the court papers. In addition to that, there are $335 in court fees for processing a divorce and it will take approximately two months to get finalized.

Although it can be done without having both parties signing off on the divorce, it would leave a few loose ends such as having both names on the auto-loans.

I guess the bottom line is we would need to come up with $435 to complete the divorce but to finalize the separation there is no additional fee (but due to changes in NYS laws over the past year we will need to complete new information worksheets). Because of how long ago we made that deposit they would not be able to give us a cash refund, only "store credit". We could apply that toward creating wills, incorporating a business or filing a divorce.

Shortly after he sent that e-mail he called me to see if I'd read it. asked if I would split the cost. I said that I did not want a divorce but if that is what he really wanted then yes, I would split the cost. He said that it would take awhile for him to come up with the money, said the store credit was useless to us unless we had a business to incorporate or wanted wills. I said that with DS having wills would not be a bad idea, he was quiet a moment and then switched to talking about taxes. Without me saying anything, he told me that I could claim DS this year, and then we chatted a few minutes about the different filing statuses. He said if we had divorced last year I could file as head of household this year and that would make a huge difference. Then he said if we get back together and aren't married I could still file HoH and get back a big refund. I teased him about ethics and where he works, and that it's a good thing he knows the tax laws so well. He laughed and then had to get going.

So, trying to be upbeat and positive, not the mopey crying me I usually am. But until his lease with the tramp is up in June, I don't know what good it will do.

I didn't respond to his e-mail. I wanted to say back something about him needing to decide one way or another what it is he wants and then file if he chooses, but didn't. Trying not to rock the boat any, you know.