She loves but isn't in love with me. Sound familiar? I've read where it can take 1-2 years to rebuild a marriage after an affair.
What questions can I ask her or comments can I make to see if she really wants this?
I've felt that, and heard the love comment, so I guess I've had it from both sides. One book I read reminds that the comment is more about feeling connected than it is love; is that a fair comment for you?
I am like a rare few on these boards; I think an affair is an ender for me. Emotional, I could get by. Physical, no way. 1 year or 100, we'd be done. I admire your loyalty and efforts to make your marriage work.
I wish I could tell you what to ask - I don't know myself! I do know that actions speak when voices can not, so we always need to consider how others interpret those... I wouldn't worry about if she says she wants to work at it - look to see if she does.
