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[awest1217]

It was my plan not to confront him for a while. I text him once I saw the information and just said "I am sorry but I am not going to do dinner tomorrow." I figured I wouldn't get a text back at any point because he has a lot at work tonight, but he did text me and say "any reason". As I was texting back, yes but i don't want to get into it tonight, he calls and calls. I finally get the text sent and he replies please just tell me, and keeps calling (I hate when he ignores me so I try not to do it to him). I answered and he asked what was going on. I said I don't want to get into it, and he said he didn't either and jsut to tell him because he was still at work. I said I opened your credit card bill and saw you went and got a hotel in OH and I am pretty sure you were not alone. HE said ok and hung up. A few minutes later he texts me and says "i don't want to fight, im sorry i am making bad decisions to ruin our lives. that was weeks ago-after our fight, but you are right that is not an excuse. i am sorry." I sent him two messages one that said I was upset because he told me that he hadn't talked to OW in weeks, but he went on this weekend thing (which was only one week ago) and I said it is worse because I spent that weekend with our son who was puking and pooping everywhere and he didn't even know because he hadn't checked in on him at all. The second text just said that I have asked for only two things and that is faithfulness and honesty. I said if he really truly is serious about coming home because he wants us to work, then he needs to come clean about everything because that is the only way we will work.

Lucky - about the meeting. I tried last night o bring up some of the stuff and he just kept saying he wanted to come home and it wasn't an issue so I am figuring in person would be more of the same because he just wants to come home. I don't think he has had a change of heart in a week. He sent me the first text that he missed me the day after he got back from the weekend with OW. They have a plan up their sleeves and I am not falling for it.

Right now I am just wanting to ruin OW's life by telling her husband everything I know, but I know I can't so I won't. I wish I actually knew him or had met him at some point. I know that is the anger, but man H and OW deserve it.