Looking for Advice

[sandi2]

Now though, am I pushing too much on a still WAW asking for a night at a hotel this weekend?

Well, I look at that kind of like dating. It doesn't mean automatic sex. You're just getting a room together. In fact, my advice would be to let her intiate any moves and make darn sure if she does that there isn't a doubt in your mind as to what the signal is. If she gives a hug......then hug her back with the same intensity. If it's a non-sexual hug....that's what you give back. If she leans in to give you a small kiss.....then receive it and don't pursue back with more. If she wants more...she'll let you know.

If you follow her lead, (and make sure you know where she's going).....then she'll likely feel less pressure. I think she already feels pressure just a the thought of a hotel room, so I honestly think she's doing a real effort movement (that you were wanting to see out of her).

Don't know if you'll listen to me, but as I've tried to tell some of you men, if the WAW thinks her H is not interested in her sexually, then it usually attracts her. That old prinicple of wanting what you can't have, remember? So, if you were to tell her that you booked a room and that you realize both of you have been under a lot of strain for a long time and would just like for the two of you to relax and enjoy the social event with friends....and didn't want her to feel like she had to worry about you coming on to her, I think she would let her guard down a lot. In fact, if she sees you being fun and charming with her as well as others, then she may actually get kind of turned on by that and try to see if she can still affect you the way she once did. Maybe she will want to test the waters to see if she thinks there still could be a little spark between the two of you before making this big decision about moving. (I remember what she said, but all WAW's think the spark is gone.)

So like I said, if she makes the moves toward you, then just give as good as you are getting, until you see she isn't going to back out of what she started. There is that chance, you know, when she first tries to kiss you and you get into a real sexual embrace.....so try to keep your wits and don't go crazy right off the bat. Do you feel like you're getting your first sex talk?

Seriously, I'm not wanting to set you up for disappointment and that's why I said to tell her that you are just wanting to have a relaxing time. That way, you won't be expecting anything from her and won't be worried about what you should or shouldn't do. It puts all the balls in her court!