Hey NC..

Don't take it personally.
Leave the assumptions behind.
What happens in their grandmother's house is none of your business.

Focus on where you are now.

About the job..

Are you obligated to be a father, or do you choose to be? If you were married would you options be any different?

Casting blame around only muddies the water.

Look at yourself in the mirror.
Stop worrying and projecting how you feel others are out to destroy you.
Go from there.

Try the Four Agreements..

And a personal favorite..

If it's right, do it.
If it's wrong, don't.
If you can't decide or waffle, don't.

Take a "Blame Off" day. No blaming anyone, no castigating, no railing, no feelings of victimization. Do it for a day. See what it feels like

Keep it simple, my friend.

*hugs*