I just remembered something from a long time ago, before my husband and I married. We had been living together and thinking about marriage. But I got cold feet and called it off, broke up with him, and moved out. While I was living at a GF's house and being very independent, he showed up one afternoon and said, "I was thinking about going for ice cream, anybody want to come?" Of course, my GF said no. But I went. I never thought of that as pressuring me, or pursuing behavior. I thought, "What a nice guy, he took me out for ice cream even after I broke up with him." We ended up back together not long after.
