Definitely bring her ice cream and offer it to her. So many people equate not pursuing with being inconsiderate and selfish. They are not the same. You can be not pursuing and still be kind, considerate, and generous. I doubt you would be called pursuing if you brought a donut and coffee to a friend at work. But on this website, say "Good morning" and someone will accuse of pressuring your wife! No one falls in love with a selfish, self-centered b-tard. At least, none of the women I know. At all times, you need to display likable behavior to your wife.
