Valentines Day...what's a LBS to do?

[OrlandoGator]

As I approach my first Valentines day as an (almost) LBS, I am perplexed about what to do and was wondering what the rest of you are planning, or have handled it in the past? I suppose the exact details of your sitch make a difference, in a nutshell we have been in "limbo" since I got the ILYBNILWY speech about 5 months ago. She says she doesn't know if she wants a divorce or not but isn't willing to work on the marriage right now. Hence, limbo ensues. Basically she travels so much with her new job that she's asked to just put the marriage on the shelf until the travel slows down in late Spring.
So what have those of you in similar sitch's done...or plan to do this year...regarding Valentines Day?
My first thought is no romance = no acknowledgement...what meaning (or message) would a gift have to an almost WAW? Thoughts?

[trytryagain]

i've wondered the same thing myself. my WAH will have moved out by then and i'll be living alone in our old apartment.

lucky for me, a girlfriend is getting married in march and is having her bridal luncheon that afternoon, so that takes some of the stress off me (in terms of thinking about myself sitting at home alone all day), but i was also thinking about signing up for a 3 week restorative yoga class that offers a class on that night as well.

other people may disagree, but i say be your own valentine and treat yourself to something nice.

[antlers]

If she's made up her mind that she doesn't want to work on the marriage, as you say, then a gift for her on Valentine's Day won't mean Jack Crap to her! No romance.
A simple card generic card with no romantic sentiments will be fine...if you must. "Hope you have a nice day" or something like that

[robx]

simple, no gifts.

Get a date and go out for dinner that day,
detach, GAL and move on.

Counter intuitive but then again, you've tried all the other stuff with no positive results so why not try something that is counter intuitive ;-)

Who knows, it might actually work!

[lea74]

Really sorry to hijack here. Robx if you get a mo would really appreciate you having a look at my stich. Any input would be appreciated.

Thanks,

[flowmom]

I'm going to do fun things with my kids:

• pancakes with cinnamon hearts
• writing things that we love on paper hearts
• go buy flowers for ourselves

I like the idea of catching a hot yoga class that day, if H can look after the kids. I'll probably try to have a DVD ready to get my mind off things after the kids go to bed.

For H: no acknowledgement that it's V-day.

[CityGirl]

Take whatever money you would usually spend on the WAS Valentines gift and buy a gift to leave at a nursing home for an elderly person with no company.

Take whatever money you would usually spend on the WAS Valentines gift and buy dog/cat food and bring it to an animal shelter.

IOW - spend the time choosing something and the money on buying what you choose to give to somebody that APPRECIATES it.

[Cadet]

Flowmom,
I think you are starting to get it. I am proud of you.


Gifts and cards are pursuing. The last thing you want to do is pursue. NC and GAL give yourself something nice.

[antlers]

other people may disagree, but i say be your own valentine and treat yourself to something nice.

I think that's a good idea.

[happywithchange]

It's killing me. I feel like I am close to a breakthrough to her. We are "dating" and if I don't take her out on Valentine's day the date night of the yr then I am screwed. But like I said, I only feel like I am close to a breakthrough, the reality is thee is most likely no love yet and thus, sharing valentine's day with her is a sham.

Im strong, confident, in control of my emotions, GAL and 180's are in full effect, and she knows it. I will convince her the grass is dead everywhere else. And lush green right here. But still, why couldn't VD be at least 3 months from now.