PH - Thanks for stopping by. It's nice to have the virtual support even when there is no concrete advice.

The lack of transparency bothers me a lot. I'd be lying if I said it didn't. It was one of the conditions I laid out for H before he returned but never happened. Trust can never be fully restored without full honesty and transparency. There have been times where H hasn't been honest. And this is why I remain stuck many months after R.
Most of the times (not always successful at it), I've decided to behave as someone that is trusting would behave and if H is not honest, that really is his issue. He's very consumed by guilt. I'm not sure if it's all in relation to his PA or if there may be other things he feels guilt over. If this is the case, in the end, he'll be hurting himself the most.


Me47
H46
S13
M16
Piecing since May/09

"Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it." Lou Holtz