Until you've sorted out what happened with the marriage and what you want for yourself now, regardless of the men in your life, you risk diving back into unresolved problems.
Doesn't this part of her answer about not rushing back to her xh make sense? It sounds very much like this woman left on a whim and it wasn't very long ago based on what she says. She has realized her mistake but then again, something led her away from him to start with. Does she know what it was? Is it fixed? She needs to answer those questions for herself before she returns to her xh and risks hurting herself and her children more.
Isn't that what we all expect to do? Look hard at our M's and see the flaws. See what we could have improved on, where we turned left instead of right, discover what words would have been less hurtful or driven less of a wedge.
That is how we grow. That is how we learn to have better R's and ultimately better M's. It sounds to me like the author gave her that exact answer. Find out your own mind before you mess with other peoples lives.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
