Seems like he only posts from work anymore. Maybe didnt make it in today, or no news is good news!
This is true for the most part, pc at home is torn down temporarily in light of cousin's son moving in, should be back up soon.
However, I haven't been there much since Thursday. Thursday I went by XW's for dinner since no-one else was going to be home at 'my place'. We made a great dinner together and were playing a game of Monopoly when I got up to go to the kitchen for something or another and then had the scariest moment in my life to date. I remember hitting the kitchen floor face first, then (x)W and S11 trying to pick me up off the floor, got me up and I went down again. Next thing I knew I was in her bedroom on the floor, apparently they walked me in there to lay down, but once again on the floor and gasping for air with them all freaking out and S12 calling 911.
From there it got shotty, I fogishly remember being in the ambulance and the EMT's yelling my name and the EMT attending me telling the driver to hurry up.
From there, on and off in the ER, and the worlds longest MRI at about 5 in the morning was when I started to come to full conciousness. HAd a batttery of test ran that were coming up inconclusive, except the same blood test my doctor had done months ago came up with a high count of white cells saying my body was trying to fight an infection. I told them sever times that I have no infected cuts or anything and they started to write it off just like my doctor did.
I sighted the numbness in my arm I had been having since September, they said they couldn't find anything, but obviously something was wrong as I had what they were calling a stroke.
I told them, yes my head has been hurting on and off since falling to the floor, but my chest hurts even more. They paid no attention.
So after a battery of tests all focusing on something neuro and being in the neurol ICU the for "the giggles' of it ran an eco-cardiogram (heart ultrasound) that ran longer than expected which I demanded they do first before what they wanted to do was a lumbar extraction (spinal tap) to see if the infection was in the brain fluid.
After not hearing anything, no results, no nothing other than this jerk Neurologist get all on my case that my blood/alcohol level was "too high by his standards" when I was admitted. I told him several times, we had just had dinner and yes I did have a few glasses of wine with (x)W while cooking and during dinner. He wanted no part of it, whatever. Anyway, all the sudden a nurse comes in and says you're good to go.
I'm like WTF?!?! "Good to go?" I also noted that unless it was the way that my port was affixed to my left hand, the numbness I had been experiencing is gone! She just says, weird, I note that to the doctors but you're clear. So she hands me a laundry list of vitamins, supplements and meds along with instructions for a............. Cardio diet.
Ummm, so did anybody ever plan to tell me what happened and why I'm on this?
The echo-cardiogram revealed that there was a cholesterol 'blockage' to the brain and that was the problem.
Uggh!
I'm fine, chest is still raw and a bit woosey driving, but overall fine.
(x)W was there for the most part, and she was great. She had to leave because now enter a new problem:
Upon my being taken by ambulance to the ER, (x)W took the kids over by our house and her brother agreed to take care of them for whatever the duration of time. However, at some point Friday morning, S12 decided to go back to (x)W's house to get his bookbag. (x)W had told ehr brother they needent go to school as they were traumatized seeing the way I was in convulsions and what not.
Anyway, (x)W called to check on the kids and her brother "overslept", and S11 was there but S12 was not. (x)W assumed he went to school anyways as he freaks about missing school. She called in S11 to the school and made sure that S11 had his lunch all together or what not and they said he wasn't there.
Long story short, he was nowhere to be found, and (x)W and I started to freak that he once again got on the train or something to come see me in the hospital. She filed a missing person's report and in all 7 villages were at point guard looking for him.
Later in the afternoon after riding around with the youth officer and seargent she returned to her house to find him hiding behind a bed. So that ended "well". S12 says that when he was going to get his bookbag he heard the bell ring and thought he'd be in trouble for being late to school. At the very moment she found him, police were coming into the house to investigate and this is where the real trouble starts.
(x)W is not the tightiest of mothers. Nor are two pre-teen boys obviously. The few times I had been there recently, I had been randomly cleaning up and (x)W as well as her father had been just fine with that.
Well, on Saturday I got the funny feeling that S12 little stunt was going to cause an issue. So, I started top to bottoming the house. The very last room to start was S12's. Shoot S11 was delighted to see his room clean whne he returned. You'd think S12 could own up and clean his own room? Nope. No sooner than I walk into his pig stye of a room, the doorbell rings and (x)W answers. Guess who? It's the Department of Children and Family services.
I managed to get into S12's room and close the door. It was a disgrace. Anyway, (x)W got the 3rd degree, the worker didn't inspect the house, but said she was an emergency repsonder and someone would be back. Never asked of my whereabouts and didn't know I was there.
Uggh never rains put it pours.
So she's up a creek now with the state and S12 needs to be supervised 24/7. We went to church and her health club on Sunday was a great day and made another fantastic dinner together, somethign that for whatever reason we didn't too much of before. She'd work on one aspect of the meal, and I'd work on another, but never on the same dish.
I took eysterday off work cause I just didn't feel comfortable driving alone. Still don't. Ended up having to get S12 frmo school as the perosn she asked to do it bailed and I spent yet one more night with them.
It's been a great what almost a week. I feel very much at home and S11 for one has been delighted. (x)W and had our issues here and there Thursday morning/afternoon and it got pretty emotional, but in all it went well.
Well crap that's my short story for now
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
Oh yeah, couple of random thoughts/updates on the sitch.
Somehow, (x)W salvaged some cards I had given her over the years. And we spent some qulity time reminiscing over their purpose. I somehow always managed to find cards that simply fit the moment in time and what was going on. Heh, thought she got rid of it all.
BUT, speaking of cards........I was cleaning out under their entertainment center and find a card "To my wife, on valentines day". Didn't look familiar so I opened it up and firgured by the scribble it was from (x)FIL to MIL. Handed it to (x)W and when she opened it, she apologized, it was from OM! Where in the blue hell did he get off calling her his wife?
Blach, then cleaning S11's room I found a bag, looked like (x)W's usual way of cleaning up in a hurry: stuff it out of sight or in a bag and it's clean. Just as about to open it, S11 informed me I shouldn't, "it's you know who's stuff".
She again apologized and said she'd get rid of it.
She also put up a copy of our wedding photo I didn't know existed. That's a positive sign.
When we had our discussion on Thursday I know it went well. Like I said, it was emotionally charged and all, but the exact details are a bit sketchy in light of what happened later that night. But we did cover OM and all that quite a bit.
Her claim is basically that she didn't want to be with him per sae, but she needed someone as she couldn't drive nor support herself and kids alone. So she basically fesses up that she was using him for that, and to get at me. But she professes that all the while he wanted it to be more in depth and she said it cou;dn't be. She does claim the house they bought was strictly for investment and not to move to. But, now that I think about it, that's a load, she told me of how she planned to go to a community college there and get her degree and stuff. Heh, gonna have to call her back out on that one.
We did also dive back into some of the M problems for the first time since god knows when, last year? It went well, we're on the same page, MIL's death sent her in a tailspin and she cut me out, then I checked out on her and the rest is history.
We're both very sorry it came to that and ended in D, but it needed to.
So, we've wrapped up the past. Are dealing with "OM aftermath" and spent a lot of time discussing options for our future together.
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
(x)W's "friend" who agreed to take care of S12 until (x)W gets home bailed now for the second day in a row.
In light of (x)W's statement that she essentually 'used' OM I had figured she would have called him for ride to go get S12 this afternoon. I know he's readily available as he's still unemployed (boo-hoo). No, she called a cab! I'm figuring it's probably gonna be about $50 or so out the window for this. I could have seen her swallowing her pride and calling OM up and pitch him a few bucks for gas to save some of her own money, but no, finally out of respect of how my feelings would have been impacted, she went to the extreme of calling out a cab.
That speaks volumes to me right now. I love this woman.
So when do you officially end piecing and go full blown reconcilliation?
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
Where in the blue hell did he get off calling her 
