Please Advise!!!! I Could Use Some HELP

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No, it's really simple. He doesn't trust you. That's it.

What you need to do is validate all his feelings. Make sure the changes you make are 100% transparent and complete. Don't give him a single inch of doubt on those changes at all as he will leap upon them and it will be one step forward twenty back.

As far as sex etc, you need to not have it at all with him even if he initiates it later. If it's not possible to do that, use visible protection (ie. not the pill but condoms). Make sure he knows that you are in no way AT ALL trying to get pregnant by him and that it is him you want.

I think you also need to do what us LBS's do. Stop analysing everything. It is what it is what it is. He is willing to LIE to family and friends to spend time with you. Do you KNOW how good a chance that is? He wants to spend time with you but he doesn't yet trust you enough to tell family and friends that you guys are seeing each other again. Let him trust you. And stop pushing him. Stop pushing him. Stop pushing him. Chill. Relax. Let it happen. I know it's difficult but it's also imperative.

I think you have a great chance here. If you ruin it I will get on a plane and over there to slap you 'upside the head' (yeah I'm trying to be all street just now). That's love and devotion for you