Is it me? Or is it really everyone else? lol.

[Tomato]

W just sent me a text telling me she landed the permanent position she had been wanting that is the same company my BIL works at. I told her that is great and I am happy for her and congrats.

Kevin

damn, I just can't wait to come down there and for starters show you how to turn off your friggin cellular droid thingy contraption so that a real and true focas can be placed on you.

going to start searching for where the closest lumber yard is to you in Dallas so that I can still travel light when I come down there yet still get the job done as necessary.

'but I need my cell phone for emergencies' ...yeah right emergencies were only invented at the same time cell phones were ...right,right, right. They already have the Great American Smokeout. It should really be the Great American Cellular device power down day.

ted

[Startingover2]

She just told me she may need some help financially until her first paycheck comes in. I said ok.

Great. It may have to come out that my job is ending. Nice.

Kevin

What!? Why? You are officially unemployed in a few days! Why would you help her?

[CityGirl]

Just so I have this straight...

Your W who blew you off when you suggested you and her try some of the fabulous restaurants she goes to with her friends, who CHOSE to take a 30K pay cut without asking your opinion about it first is asking you for money? You being soon to be unemployed said yes to this request?

Why WOULD she want you to come home? You do all she needs you to do when she wants and she gets a house and other men all to herself!

She wants the perks of marriage then she works on the marriage. She does not want the marriage, no perks! Unless your children will be going without food or shelter she can figure out a way to bridge the gap in her income.

Who paid for the movie and dinner last week?

[25yearsmlc]

I talked briefly about FaithfulH and Tomato on Saturday to my W. She had asked questions about them since we are all getting together in 2 weeks. When I mentioned that FaithfulH had peiced his M back together and Tomato was working on the same thing, W just got quiet. She did ask me to pray for her friends M again to which I said I will.

Dinner Saturday night was enjoyable. She did talk some about dinners with her friends. She always tells me that me and my friends need to go try this place or that place. At one poin I said why don't we go try one of those places sometime. Not sure why I said it. It didn't get much of a reaction out of her.

I wouldn't tell W you are even on this site...she will see it as you still putting pressure on her, doing whatever she asks, and weak by looking like you cannot live without her. Put yourself in her shoes with her selfish mindset. If you heard that your soon to be exhusband was on a DB site and talking to others about you..you would want to run for the hills!

Ditto on asking her to do ANYTHING with you! Get your own friends and go there.

K4, wth? Even now, you are Still....pursuing...WTH? Come on! Spend your energy on getting a job and a life. You don't offer her anything she's interested in anyhow. And your list of postiives was about how you feel about things or people. Those are not traits, those are your feelings and aspirations. What are your traits? Are you funny? Are you kind? Are you sensitive, strong, disciplined, intelligent, hardworking, ambitious, outgoing, well read, generous, interested, interesting, a free spirit, a loyal friend, which?

Um, we all know you miss your w and want her back. No one, especially your wife, doesn't know that. SIGH...and so it goes. Why you feel it's necessary to post that, in case we forgot, is strange. Kind of like you telling your w, that SHE should go to those places with YOU, instead of you and your friends. She suggested something for you to do to GAL and you made it clear you still cannot do that without her. Super appealing, sooo different than before. CHANGE....or stay stuck. Your choice.

j-

[smith18]

She just told me she may need some help financially until her first paycheck comes in. I said ok.

Awesome! You should think about a career as a politician - promising people money that you dont have.

[jon2911]

Kev, trying to catch up on your threads. Just found the new one. You still up for tomorrow?

[K4D]

Jon,

I completely forgot. Thanks for reminding me. I will see you there. I got your email.

Kevin

[K4D]

Everyone else,

I do have some money in savings. It isn't that I don't have the money. Plus, worse case, I apply for unemployment this weekend.

Why would I help her? She is trying to do some things right in her life. She is going back to church. She took a permanent job that pays less because it is permanent with benefits in a very good company. The other positions were contract. This way she doesn't have to worry about finding another job in 6 months. So she is making 60k now. She was making 90k before with no benefits and ridiculously high health insurance.

She seems to be coming out of this fantasy high life that she was stuck in for so long. She is becoming grounded again. She was at the house tonight when I picked up the kids and she actually came over and gave me a hug when I congratulated her.

I see some changes going on in her. Slowly, but some changes none the less. I am not saying she is heading back towards me. But her over all demeanor is changing back to a nice person again.

I guess I am starting to see some traits in her again that I haven't seen for a very long time.

Kevin

[K4D]

What are your traits? Are you funny? Are you kind? Are you sensitive, strong, disciplined, intelligent, hardworking, ambitious, outgoing, well read, generous, interested, interesting, a free spirit, a loyal friend, which?

I am sensitive, funny at times, kind, generous and a loyal friend.

I think I have lost my edge this past year and a half on some of the other traits that I am trying to obtain back.

Kevin

[K4D]

Who paid for the movie and dinner last week?

We split the cost.

Kevin