It's the end of the world as we know it, & I feel-

[mishka422]

BBJ, darlin', you know I agree full-heartedly with Jeff here.

Stewing in your anger is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die. You know it, keeping it in isn't helping you at all. It has to be released. That doesn't necessarily mean that you have to release it on Dan and create animosity (Dan does that enough already with his passive-agressive approach) but it does need to get out of your head.

Write it in a journal. Write in all CAPS to scream it. Yell to your C about it, yell to God about it. Get it out and get rid of it.

Dan must have his time with the kids AWAY from your home. I like the wording Jeff used. Very direct so there can be no misunderstanding claimed by Dan.

All of this crap with Dan spending all this time in your home is only going to further confuse the kids. The sooner you get them into a routine of spending time with their dad at their dad's (wherever the heck that is is completely Dan's problem)the quicker they will adjust and stop being on the same emotional rollercoaster you have been on.

Stop being nice BBJ. Dan is a complete prick and doesn't deserve your attention, your love, or your support. Seriously! The man needs to cry to a C, not to you. He has done his best to destroy you by claiming you are the root cause of all his unhappiness. You see how he words this right? "I'm miserable, my life is screwed up. If only you had supported me." See that? He shifted all the blame onto your shoulders and you are letting him!!!

On another note, you have my number right? It's on my FB info page. Anytime you EVER, and I mean EVER, need to talk woman to woman call me. I don't care what time it is BBJ, I'm here for you sister.