I know I was pursuing too much. when she's telling you you're doing it too much you know you're doing it too much.
It's just so annoying that she would suggest it, and then when I try to get it to happen she backs down...as if the offer wasnt genuine.
And the line about how lunch together would make up for it is a bit insulting too. Is there anyone here who doesnt see a difference between a family lunch and the two of us having drinks alone, and how one couldnt make up for the other?
As far as what you said about my boundary lacking confidence, how so? Am I gonna have to go back and state it again...because this is the second time and I really thought it was firm this time. And what was her answer that I am missing?
Was it "whatever happens, happens"? Do you see that as her telling me she's going to pursue the OM and if I chose to cut her off and be done it doesnt matter? I do remember he saying "that's your decision" when I set it, followed by the not mkaing promises and whatever happens stuff.
