It's the end of the world as we know it, & I feel-

[sandycay]

I took the stance to stop all the time as my house differently. Passive aggressive as that is how it seems STBXH operates and Dan too.

I said, "H it cause to much confustion for me in my head for you to be in the home like it's a home. My head can't stay straight with you coming and going. It seems like H & W stuff when your here, when we do things with the kids together. That's not what a D looks like or acts like. I think for me, for my sanity I have to stop all of that now. You need to make arrangements to spend your time with the kids elsewhere and we can't do things as a family anymore. There will come a time when we can do more, when time passes and the hurt is less. I look forward to that but for right now... I can't spend ANY time with you. It hurts to much.


You know what....it worked .... he umderstood.... after a few times of me reminding him..... i.e. having the kids waiting by the door.... when talking on the phone about visittion I used phrases like "what time are you picking them up?" things like that .... he'll get the hint.