Allen A I more than welcome your viewpoint as I have with everyone. I agree that my actions will speak louder than words (re: changing my phone # and writing the NC letter, etc).
I am also now more aware of what needs to take place to prove myself. Unfortunately there is NO manuel on how to make a M right after an affair so I really appreciate everyone's input and advise.
As an update, I wanted to inform cutterbug and undefeated that I contacted my husband on yesterday to see if he'd received the THANK YOU card I'd sent and how he felt about my invite to spend Valentine's Day weekend together.
He told me that he'd rec'd the card...When I asked him what he thought about us spending Valentine's Day weekend together he said, "Well I guess I don't have a choice." I said you don't have a choice, are you implying that I'm strong arming you? He just laughed. I just continued on with our conversation as normal trying not to make a big deal out of what he said.
Later last night I text messaged him to inform him of my arrival time for that weekend. Shortly there after, he decides to respond to me via text and said: "Don't get your hopes up to high and expect things to be like they were, cuz it's not gonna change anything at all, the divorce still stands and sex is definitely out, just so you know.
After reading this, I'm sure you can imagine I was confused. Why would he wait to express this to me via text when he could've told me this earlier in our conversation. So I called him and asked him what he meant and he said...."I think your up to something and I just wanna let you know that nothing will change. I proceeded to ask him why he thought I was up to something and he said that's your MO. So I said, I never told you I was flying out to Sacramento to stop a divorce or to have sex...I just wanted to spend time with you and hang out. If you don't want me to come out to see you then I won't. He then says, "Oh know I don't mind hanging out I just don't want you to think things will change. He went on to say he thought that I was trying to get pregnant by him. I reassured him that was NOT my intention and that we could sleep in separate beds for goodness sakes.
Honestly, do you think he would spend the weekend with me and still divorce me? I asked him what was he gonna tell his family and friends when he disappears for the weekend? He said that he was gonna tell them that he was partying with some of the guys from work. I thought it was interesting that he already had his story together for that weekend and that he agreed to check into our hotel room early since I won't arrive until late Saturday evening.
You men say that women are confusing but MEN take it to another level. My husband didn't make any sense. So I can come visit you for the weekend. Your willing to lie to your family and friends to spend Valentine's Day weekend with me after telling them that our marriage is over and you've filed for divorce. Your convinced that I'm up to something( trying to get pregnant to stop the divorce).
HMMMMM is it me OR am I missing something here??????
