If you CHOOSE to spend day in and day out in your apartment that is up to you. What you should be doing if it comes to that is getting up, getting dressed in a professional way and be out of the house by 8am. Hit the library and spend several hours there working on your resume, searching job boards, fine tuning your resume and sending out contact e-mails. The computers at the library are free.
Take a lunch break just like you would if you were at a job. Use the afternoons to take meetings, attend seminars, find networking events, go to interviews and pound the pavement.
That is MUCH better than sitting at home. You know you don't handle being at home well so why even put yourself in that position when there are other ways to handle a stretch of unemployment. If you know what doesn't work why do it?
Thats a very good idea CG. Thanks for the suggestion. That will definitely help me out mentally.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Just dawned on me as I was looking at a search engine that there are a bunch of financial analyst jobs out there that pay very well. I have 5 years as an analyst in a finance department for a mortgage company. I just need to beef up my advanced excel skills again for that.
Maybe I should have 2 separate resumes. one for finance and one for IT.
Not a peep out of W today.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Not that it matters in the least. More peace and quiet for that successful job hunt of yours.
Those are real good thoughts you got ruminating in your head. I pray that the Lord is with you as you refine and formulate a plan for those job quest thoughts and I pray that He assists you in giving no thought at all to what W has going on over in her 'camp'.
A true indicator of detachment is when you go through prolonged periods where you could care less what she is doing and you are thinking about her pretty much not at all.
Let her be God's project. If He should need you I am fairly certain he'll find a way to let you know.
Let her be God's project. If He should need you I am fairly certain he'll find a way to let you know.
Excellent!
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
W just sent me a text telling me she landed the permanent position she had been wanting that is the same company my BIL works at. I told her that is great and I am happy for her and congrats.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Maybe I should have 2 separate resumes. one for finance and one for IT.
This is an excellent idea; I've done that when applying for tech support jobs and customer service jobs.
And yes, the absolute last thing you need to do is stay at home. If you must, spend time on Monster or some other job search sites. Don't miss the opportunity to walk resumés out by hand as well.
Your wife should be the last thing on your mind right now. You need to take care of YOU, YOU, YOU. (Your kids come a close second.)
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
I can't get a single phone call and she has gotten offers left and right. Unreal. lol.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
OMG, she just took a 30k drop in pay for the permanent position. I am stunned. But she was wanting permanent and not contract. She says she is a little nervous about it. I told her it will be fine and she can work her way up and she has benefits with this job.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
She just told me she may need some help financially until her first paycheck comes in. I said ok.
Great. It may have to come out that my job is ending. Nice.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
