H is apartment hunting today

[trytryagain]

[quote=onthemountaintop]My mom said, "sometimes you need to cut your losses", at first. Later, she added their own layer of stress - would they lose their grandkids if I divorced. Ouch...

my mom says that to me a lot, about cutting my losses. this is not the first time he has wanted out of our marriage. but this time it's not because he's acting impulsively (at least not in his mind), but because he just doesn't see us making it work in the long term. isn't there a point in every marriage where one or both spouses want to "cut their losses?" how would anyone ever stay married if we all acted on that instead of fighting to make things work?

at least you have your children, though. my mom sees this as the closing of the door on my baby making chances at least for another 5 years. and she may be right. and i really want kids. i never wanted to rush into having them with my H, cause he has a lot of growing up to do, but still...

i am rambling.