Those are such hard stories. Alcoholism definitely has widespread consequences. Those are definitely cases of abuse where everyone including MWD would agree that the abuser needed serious help and the others needed to get away.
The way I view it though, Kalni's H is most definitely guilty of emotional neglect. But I do not see that as abuse (I would if he were consciously and intentionally doing it to get his way). So, I am curious why a few people seem to see the M as detrimental and are so adamant that he will never change.
Sorry for the hijack. (((Kalni)))
He has already showed certain areas of change and they appear to be sticking. He is at a definite crossroads now but he is only there because he made some changes to get there.
(((Kalni))) 
