So last night sucked royally - he ruined a playful fun conversation by getting defensive and turning it into an argument. We were deciding whether or not my 15 pound cat could fit under the bedroom door for goodness sake! I mean, this is not exactly something worth really fighting about. And so I asked him why he does that, turns playful banter into an argument. At which point he threw on a jacket and went "for a walk." Baloney. He went outside to call the OW. We had been discussing ML before the tiff. But I am not going to ML to a man who was outside professing his undying love to someone else. So I went to sleep.
And then this morning he left for work almost an hour early, supposedly to get ready for an inspection and to buy gear he doesn't have. Maybe so, but I doubt it. Nothing is open at 8 am. But it was not worth calling him out. Seriously, though, how the heck is he so naive? Does he think I'm dumb? HELLO! I went there first, duh.
But I decided that his actions this morning have nothing to do with me. I got up, fixed my hair to the best of my abilities (didn't find my hair dryer until after lunch unfortunately), put on my makeup, and presented him with a smile when he walked back into the house. Let him wonder...
I have made myself three promises/goals for now:
1. I will fix my hair and makeup every day, whether I feel like it or not.
2. I will have a smile on my face every time he comes home, even if I'd rather throw something (I have half a dozen eggs left ) at him.
3. I will not mention or allude to the OW, and if he provokes me I will walk away or change the subject.
Once I master these I hope to do some things that are bigger.
Also, I think it is time to move this thread to the Infidelity/Extramarital Affairs forum. Somebody please, how do I make a link to this original thread? Once I know that I will move, but all my friends will be able to find me - it will be the same name. Even though I think "living together, worlds apart" would be good too.
undefeated 24 H 24 S's 4, 2, 1 M 5 yrs
"Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all." ~Dale Carnegie
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