Calling out the Piecers

[dday101798]

Oh yeah, couple of random thoughts/updates on the sitch.

Somehow, (x)W salvaged some cards I had given her over the years. And we spent some qulity time reminiscing over their purpose. I somehow always managed to find cards that simply fit the moment in time and what was going on. Heh, thought she got rid of it all.

BUT, speaking of cards........I was cleaning out under their entertainment center and find a card "To my wife, on valentines day". Didn't look familiar so I opened it up and firgured by the scribble it was from (x)FIL to MIL. Handed it to (x)W and when she opened it, she apologized, it was from OM! Where in the blue hell did he get off calling her his wife?

Blach, then cleaning S11's room I found a bag, looked like (x)W's usual way of cleaning up in a hurry: stuff it out of sight or in a bag and it's clean. Just as about to open it, S11 informed me I shouldn't, "it's you know who's stuff".

She again apologized and said she'd get rid of it.

She also put up a copy of our wedding photo I didn't know existed. That's a positive sign.

When we had our discussion on Thursday I know it went well. Like I said, it was emotionally charged and all, but the exact details are a bit sketchy in light of what happened later that night. But we did cover OM and all that quite a bit.

Her claim is basically that she didn't want to be with him per sae, but she needed someone as she couldn't drive nor support herself and kids alone. So she basically fesses up that she was using him for that, and to get at me. But she professes that all the while he wanted it to be more in depth and she said it cou;dn't be. She does claim the house they bought was strictly for investment and not to move to. But, now that I think about it, that's a load, she told me of how she planned to go to a community college there and get her degree and stuff. Heh, gonna have to call her back out on that one.

We did also dive back into some of the M problems for the first time since god knows when, last year? It went well, we're on the same page, MIL's death sent her in a tailspin and she cut me out, then I checked out on her and the rest is history.

We're both very sorry it came to that and ended in D, but it needed to.

So, we've wrapped up the past. Are dealing with "OM aftermath" and spent a lot of time discussing options for our future together.