Lost - WOW...first of all you made me feel bad cause man did I miss the boat on some obvious chances. But you are SO right.

I kick and kick myself now, I got bitter about what I will term empty promises. W promised me yesterday she was going to leave early and then she didn't so even though it wasn't early, it was better and I should have said something.

I have not read the 5LLs. What is that one, I've seen it referred to, can you spell it out for me. Also, is this another book to keep the W from seeing? I could download to my iphone but with our joint itunes account she could see it, if she shouldn't I'll have to buy the old fashioned way.

Before the SH&t hit the fan, I blew it. I know that now. I didn't tell her any of things enough, that remains a HUGE issue cause now I'm not able to tell her those things. She isn't ready to hear it.

I can talk about how hard it is to be a single parent...she knows she's done that to me...and she knows I've only done it for a few months, this has come up a little before. She got a little bitter because she feels she did it for so long (but IMO not as bad as I've had it. I would make it home for swim lessons at least once every other week, and things like that to give her a break here and there, I've had no break, but that's not how she paints our history right now)

Thanks for the tips, you are incredible and a great friend.

And yes, I had that thought about someone who could flex from a few hours to overnight, I have two in-mind, got to figure out which would be ideal.

And another thought...tell me what you think...I could go out for an ice cream and then bring one back...we do not take food into the basement. She'd have to wonder not only why did I go out for one, but she'd have to come up to eat it before it melted, or does that defeat the purpose of going out for ice cream just for me just for the heck of it?

Last edited by gutwrenching; 01/26/10 08:35 PM.

M39 W41
Two children
WAW bomb dropped 11/7/09
Piecing Aug 10 - Nov 10
No longer piecing...Nov 10
Separation Jan 11
EA ends again Feb 11
Piecing attempt #2, Mar 11