Just catching up, can you ask someone to babysit who could do a stopover, that would give you some time for a change of plan.

Just one thing daughter pointed out she was home early but did YOU tell her it was nice to have her home early? Ok you will get a rebuff, she doesnt really believe your in for the 100% yet. I know in the scheme of things youd rather she committed to the relationship 100% but its not gonna be like that you have to do the 100% and let her grow from probably 0% to 100%. Just keep reminding yourself you have her at home with you and that my dear friend is a huge huge bonus!

Keep doing things for her simple, what could you do for her whilst she is in the basement to draw her out, make coffee and bring cakes but put them somewhere where she has to come to you! Say say your making coffee and you will meet her in the lounge.

What things before used to fill her 5LL's have you read it yet?
Think back before this all hit the fan, how often did you tell her she was beautiful, that you were proud of her, that you loved being with her, and what a fantastic mum she was (remember she was doing all the work before if I remember rightly). You have learnt to be a single parent thats what she was, validate her on how hard it is to do that and that although its hard how much you get out of it and you realise how much she must miss that and what a pull it is to have an exciting career and still want to be committed to your kids. As Rocked said start doing what works, if it does do it again and if doesnt dont!

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W 47
H 47
M 24
T 30

Once lost but now found and happily married again!