Michelle,
I would not call this a marriage and do not think it really has been one in a long time.

I am just looking as his long history of lying and not stepping up. The best evidence of future behavior is past behavior.
And why yes, everyone can change... he seems reluctant to do so. Almost a refusal on his end.

Am I against K reconciling- NO, I hope it works. But K can only do so much or accept so much. I mean the man has to do his work too. That's were the problem lies.

K is free to do as she pleases... I am just offering up my point of view. I feel she has moved mountains for him and he can't even do the simplest tasks to show he wants part of the marriage.

Refusing to have sex, refusing to share passwords, refusing to spend quality time together would be deal breakers for me. I mean I think everyone should give it a good try but eventually there has to be change or a D.

Just my 2 cents


I just get indignant when I read her posts- like "how dare he do this to her" she so deserves better. I have thought this for ages

I am advocating for K's happiness

M38, H37
S3, S7
Together 15 yrs
Married 8 yrs
Bomb July 2008
Inhouse separation
"I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count)
Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)