Yes I agree, never share intel.

There is no e-mail, text in print, photo graphs or anything.. he and she can simply deny it is an affair. It's her word against theirs.

There are a few things worse than knowing your spouse is having an affair

1. Knowing your spouse is having an affair AND no one BELIEVING you when you try to expose
2. Knowing your spouse is having an affair AND having no recourse (finances, OP is single, etc)

I wont' argue much about 1 and 2, they should be obvious. My efforts here are to avoid #1 happening here.

Get some material evidence, an eye-witness account from the BS is not evidence.

take photos or get a friend to watch and confirm for you.

Denial is a VERY popular defence when confronted... Michele points this out in her book.

Last edited by Allen A; 01/26/10 07:37 PM.