Just been reading what you put on H4L's post, I do think that even if we get them back, we are still suffering from PSD of the fact that they still have crushed everything we believed in.
I totally believed that my H would never leave me. That he loved me with all his heart and always would do. That we would grow old together. That we had gone through all the crappy stuff in life and were about to start enjoying that as 40 something couple. We were childhood sweethearts, maybe a touch too much of the golden couple, the one that everyone said would never split up.
Boy were they so wrong.. So yes its all that hurt combined with knowing that we have lost all of that for good and that whatever we retrieve will never be the same. For me I now know I can never not work again as I cant take the risk that he would always be there for me.. The list of hurts are endless, and some are irrepareable but we just have to live with them..
Sorry Rocked I seem to have verbal diarhoea tonight!
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Once lost but now found and happily married again!