Need advice on dealing with wifes MLC

[HHIF]

I see what you are saying about the bar thing and you are right,truth be told I probably should not be in a place or doing anything that I would not want my wife doing.

On the V-day thing it is absolutely a Hallmark creation,I have made a bigger deal of it in the past than she has.

It is so strange living here in the house with this woman that I have been with for 30 years and most of them good and happy years,but now it's like she just acts like we are just friends.I want so much to just hold this woman and have her want to be held but she just wants to be left alone.

I know from reading allot of post on here that I am in a better place than many,I mean we don't fight,her or I are not having an affair but we don't really have much of a marriage either just kind of existing under the same roof.

I have stopped writing letters and sending emails and I have stopped saying I love you to her,I know this is what I'm supposed to do but it feels strange.I catch my self thinking that I she sees that I am moving on with my life and no longer pursuing that it may make her think that we are done because I have given up on our marriage.