I think moving in is a HUGE step- esp. with his history of moving in and out again.
If it were me, I would take things slow and date and have weekend getaways and go into MC.
Me, personally, I would not allow him back into the home unless I had months of MC to see that as a couple we were on the same page about things and that you are not "disposable". That you are not always readily available.
I think he has to work at earning your trust. You are a prize to be worked for. I think I would let him know that you would consider reconciliation but old issues and problems have to be explored and resolved so that the same pattern does not occur again.
The OW is out of his life. Great! But she really was a symptom of his problems. He needs to fix himself b4 working on the marraiage. Otherwise, how will this time really be much different from the last countless times?
Kudos for you for sticking it out!
Wishing you the best!!!
M38, H37 S3, S7 Together 15 yrs Married 8 yrs Bomb July 2008 Inhouse separation "I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count) Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)
