Just want my H back

[pearlharbr]

Here's the thing, H knows that you're still there waiting for him. He knows that if things get rough in his fab new life you'll be there for support. You need to show him that's not true, then make it not true.

I don't usually advocate this position, but hold onto that anger! You're right, it is rude. Would you tolerate that behavior from a girlfriend? Or would you let the friendship go because if she isn't willing to do her part it isn't a worthwhile relationship?

I'm not advising you to be rude to him. Just don't concern yourself about anything he does unless he reaches out to you with specific plans. Or unless you honestly need to discuss business matters like taxes. Don't kid yourself about need v. want because pursuing will only hurt you in the long run.

If the tax meeting can wait then put it off. You need to be in a better frame of mind before seeing him. You need to be able to meet him and project an air of confidence because you know you are moving on to the next chapter of your life and it is going to be terrific.