Here's a question for you: Do you think your STBXW is wondering about some of the same things about you as you are about her? Just curious as I have often wondered the same myself in my own sitch.
This I wonder about, and then realize I am leaving to much room in my head for stbxw. I like to think so, but when I do, I realize it's really about me, and if she didn't, that somehow I would be less of a man or something, or if she did, would that make me happy in some way?
who really knows? I am not about to ask her, so waste of my time to wonder, so I just put those thoughts away, and move back to things I want to do for d9 and me, and move on..
I'm doing the same thing. I refuse to give my H that much of my energy and time by wondering what he's thinking, feeling, doing, etc. And it's not even a conscious effort, I just don't think about him right now. Because "it just doesn't matter"... (Thank you, Bill Murray! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g3S_k1dRbXY)
I don't think I even miss him now. I got my kids, my rabbit and my dog- that makes me pretty happy...
