You asked for advice, now you do not want to follow it. We have all said, "DO NOT TALK TO YOUR HUSBAND TONIGHT" But you came back and said, no, I am going to do it, what do you all think I should say?
And THAT (along with being very busy at work lately, plus a computer crash), is why I don't post nearly as much on here anymore. I got tired of dropping everything I was doing, skipping my lunch, even allowing people to contact me in the alt or even thru my work e-mail, and then they wouldn't follow the advice anyway.
Now, I just refer them back to Dane's sitch. Hopefully, they'll follow it.