Thank you everyone for the advice. I'm not feeling angry right now, which is weird. I think it is because deep down I knew this was happening for awhile, I just didn’t have any proof, which caused doubts. I felt like I was going crazy before last night, but after the initial shock wore off, I have a sense of calm right now. Not knowing was consuming my life, so some how now that I know, it’s released a lot of my anger and emotions.
The encounter tonight with my H is not a planned one. I have school tonight till 10:00, so he will be at my house with the kids. They will be fast asleep when I get home tonight and usually on Tuesday’s it’s a “Hi”, “Bye” conversation with my H with him leaving as soon as I get home.
I know that usually we should use the 48 hour rule, but it will be close to 35 hours from my discovery. I really do need to expose the A; however I do want to do it correctly. This is where I need everyone’s help. Should I really tell the OW’s H first? My thinking behind giving my H the warning of having OW tell her own H was to make them sweat and worry about what’s going to happen. I’m not sure if that is the right thing to do or not.
Together 16 years Married 12 years Me 36 H 34 D9 & S6 Separated 12/3/09 Confirmed A 1/25/10 Exposed A 1/26/10 H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10
