Don't know where to post this.

[loveherstill]

Sandi,

2X4 received and accepted.

I do crave her touch but when it turned abusive again I have decided enough. I am backing away this time. I cannot take her hitting me any more.

Our C has been in this business for 26 years is a liscensed Marriage and family therapist. C has a MS, LCMFT, NCC, AAMFT. C also is a certified trainer for AAMFT. She is a DB follower and is also a follower of the 5 LL.

I know my wife needs pro help and she is excited to be getting it.

I am willing to wait while she is in IC and I know that this can take many months or longer to work out.

I have been GAL'ing with old friends that I have not talked to in years. I am to visit another one tomorrow.

I am in IC with a local pastor about my controlling issues and have seen lots of improvement in myself and my attitude.

I no longer worry about what she is doing and with whom. I understand that I cannot control her actions and do not want to.

This is all a 180 for me. I just need to work on that melting thing, because she can play me that way.

I have a few women that are very interested in seeing me, but to this point I have turned them all down. I had been waiting on wife and only going out as a group with my friends.

Lately I have been considering taking up some of the offers but I still want to remain faithful to my W.

I know we are S and that I do not have to remain faithful but I take that vow seriously.

The problem is she knows this and can use my need for touch to play me.

Should I start dating while we are both in IC? Would that help create a crisis for her or would it push her farther away?

My PMA is pretty good when I am out with friends and talking to friends. It is only poor when alone or after W and I have a argument.