It does make it harder to deal objectively when they are around every day. Mine is as well - I see her way too much and it has been part of the reason why I was having difficulty detaching, despite everything she did to me - I think it made it take twice as long actually.
For some, it's much easier to rock the boat a bit and put the firm guidelines in place that need to be. For others (like me) it takes forever before we are willing to do what is necessary. However once we do it, we feel a whole lot better (go figure).
