A lot of good conversation there! But why did he hang up on you? It seems like a valid conversation to say yes, you want to come home (which he wants), so how do you want to do this? Was he just upset that you weren't gushing to have him home? I really like your last line in your email. It does seem like he wants to come home b/c he's lonely and wants someone to take care of him again, and you're right, if he's not there for you and his unconditional love for you, then that's going to spell diaster again. You did great (really clear and straight forward about what needs to happen) but I definitely don't think his argument helped him out much. Instead it continued to show how selfish he is - it's all about his needs! I don't know how long it takes these H's to grow up and learn selflessness, but they need to get this thru their heads and fast!
Regarding texting/calling him, maybe give it a couple of days to let it sink in and if you haven't heard from him by the end of the week, maybe invite him for dinner over the weekend. (and he still hasn't seen S in weeks either, huh?) I know you need some resolution and as long as he is wanting to come home, that kind of gives you the upper hand on this (power not to be abused but used gentle to open up some of these issues to hopefully come to a resolution).
I think it's good that you had a chance to let it all out last night. You have been so strong these past weeks, but I could tell you were also having to bottle up a lot of your feelings. Maybe letting them out can let you open up a bit more to H. You have been very straightforard on everything, but maybe in your next pass, it would be good to show him a little of your feelings again to let him know you do still care. That's a fine line though - you need to remain firm enough so that he takes you and this situation seriously, but sensitive enough to show your love for him. But I don't know, the things you are asking for and should expect from him aren't impossible things, so I just hope he really thinks about what you said last night in your conversation and email and takes it to heart.
Me 27; H 28; S 2 Togeth 9; M 4 Sep 11/14/08 EA OW1 Sep 08 EA OW2 Mar 09 EA OW3 Jun 10
