Don't know where to post this.

[MichelleLT]

All WASs act childish. That is certainly not unique. They all have mood swings, they all go back and forth between kindness and spew depending on the day.

Your W is NOT unique. I am not trying to minimize what happened to your W, but you will almost NEVER find a WAS who had a normal well-adjusted childhood and is not suffering from depression when they decide to have an A or ask for D. That would be a special case.

She doesn't KNOW anything about your boundary cuz you didn't follow through. You blew the cop off and let her get away with it. Your ACTIONS told her you won't go through with it. You blew the boundary setting.