I don't know. I really don't have a choice here. And it sucks. And I'll move forward.
Yes, it does suck and your H has left no options about moving forward with getting an attorney. You have the right attitude. Your attorney will be representing YOU. You let your attorney know what it is you want or don't want...that even means you can tell your attorney that you don't want the D. Unfortunately, that won't have any bearing on the process but maybe it can be part of the record that you were an unwilling participant.
I hope you stop beating yourself up. We LBSs are just trying to make it through each day while picking up the pieces of our lives. Sure there can be varying degrees of better ways to handle things, but as long as you are doing what you can to move forward, is there really any right or wrong here?
Does your H think he needs to see a psychologist? Hopefully he will follow through and face his issues.
Keep putting one foot in front of the other and life will get better.
