Dusk at Dawn.

[chatterbug]

I give her two weeks. She will hit a crisis point, and come begging you back. Be prepared with what you want, as you may only get one shot at this.

In the meantime, be courteous, upbeat, and GIVE GRACE. It will serve you well if you decide you want to reconcile.

I don't think you two are done. Could even come AFTER a D, but I don't think you're done.

Puppy

Puppy I have been thinking about this post since I read it.

Do I know what I want?

This is what I want.

1. One husband and One wife. Exclusive to each other. No one else.
2. Both wanting the Marriage. Both willing to rebuild our pride in our marriage. Both willing to rebuild the pleasure of each others company in private and in public.
3. I will no longer be a part time husband. A marriage requires a commitment of time, I will not settle for a work aholic who comes and goes with different pasttimes. Build a commitment of time again with shared pastimes.
4. Open and honest communication on the state of the marriage and the surrounding influences on the marriage.
5. Complete transparancy on all communication devices and thoughts and schedule.
6. Complete transparancy on the affair. The 5 W's.
7. Retroville to begin to learn to communicate again. Then MC with a pro DB counciler with expereince on how to deal with affairs.
8. An open converation about children again and a resolution on this issue.
9. Absolutly no contact with OM. Full NC letter , communication with OMW's on this. Full STD Testing.
10. Repair our relationships with family and friends together. rebuild a united marriage that faces the world.
11. Once these are met. Recommit to our vows on a different day.


I say this with the full knowledge that I will not settle for anything less. I am important to myself. If ladybug is not willing to offer this. Then I move on and I will keep these wants and one day if another person will be willing to meet these with me. I will fully share myself with that person. But that is not what is important. What is important that I will live my life and seek pleasure , overcome pain and be true to myself.

This is the one lesson I learned here. Always be true to yourself. No matter what.

I have suffered through so much to learn this lesson. I will not shield myself from myself ever again. I will settle for nothing less from myself.