Is it me? Or is it really everyone else? lol.

[Startingover2]

She is going to make chicken enchiladas for me and the girls to take home for dinner tomorrow night since tomorrow night is my night with the girls. They are truly excellent.

She still has no clue about my job sitch.



Kevin

Yum! Those sound good! I may have to make some when my kids get home.

Still no need to tell W yet about the job. Lets hope you can tell her about the fantastic new job you get!

[Gardener]

K4D,

Whats up?
Positive thoughts!
You will find a job.
You will be ok!

For what it's worth, I used to be a corporate recruiter in a past life so this caught my eye as I was lurking. When faced with the most down-trodden, pessimistic clients I would say:
Do you know anyone else who has ever been fired?
Yes, of course.
Anyone who was laid off?
Sure.
Anyone who was "dowsized", "rightsized" or any other "euphemism-ized"?
Yes.
And of all these people you're aware of, how many of them then wound up unemployed for the rest of their life?
Um, none.
That's right. Now let's get to work.

I will tell you three other things:

1) Keep looking, stay active, stay out there. Don't know if your next job will come with your ninth application/interview or your eighty-ninth. But the more and the faster you get them under your belt, the quicker #9 or #89 will be here.

2) Call everyone you know or are even slightly acquainted with and let them know and ask questions. Not yes/no questions (people will usually opt for no), but questions, "who do you know that might be hiring?" or - even better -"Who do you know who might know someone else who might know who's hiring?" The vast majority of hirings result from an acquaintance or an acquaintance of an acquaintance providing a contact, an introduction.

3) If you are in a professional or business field and know any HR people call them up, tell them you value their professional opinion and could they give you 20 minutes to hear your introduction/interview script and critique it. You're flattering them, not asking for a job, so not putting them on the spot. They will usually say yes.

Off my prior life soapbox, now.

Good luck.

[K4D]

Thanks Gardener,

Those are great ideas I hadn't thought of. I appreciate it.

Kevin

[K4D]

Been a busy morning so far. I have been applying for jobs. I have talked to a few people now, 4 to be exact that are with companies laying off or have just laid off people.

Gotta keep on it none the less. Worst case scenerio I can apply for unemployment this weekend.

Kevin

[Startingover2]

Keep thinking positive! Something will turn up.

[K4D]

I am trying SO2. Just a bit worried.

Kevin

[CityGirl]

You have stated how worried you are for two days now. Worrying will get you nowhere and only fuel your anxiety.

This is the time to use all our resources and become very aggressive. It is much better than worrying and it may actually yield you a result other than anxiety and hopelessness.

When you feel like you have exhausted all possibilities for a job go back to square one and brainstorm new avenues to look for work. The more creative you can be the more opportunity you will find.

[K4D]

I just want to go home to my W and kids. I am so tired of this life.

Kevin

[CityGirl]

Going home to your W and children is not an available option for you at this time. Kevin, you need to see your counselor today. Your patterns are very obvious. You have spent a bit of time with your W and children recently and your W was friendly towards you. You got your expectations up all for nothing. Now you are backsliding and falling down the hole AGAIN.

There is nothing more any of us can do until you decide to get the help you need. I am no expert at anything but your patterns are very, very clear to me, a mere stranger on a message board.

[K4D]

If something doesn't line up quick, I am about to be spending a ton of time in that apartment day in and day out. I am not looking forward to that. I really don't handle that well.

Kevin