My parents split when I was 17. I had such relief when that happened. I felt a new peace. He was verbally abusive to my mom. I didn't see my dad for almost 7 years after that and he never tried to contact me. He missed my college and medical school graduations, all my sporting events, etc. Watching the movie Field of Dreams is still difficult to this day. Thank G-d my mom filed for D.

Then, it was MY choice to seek him out and try to re-establish some sort of relationship. I was in med school and my sis told me that he looked sick. When he passed from lung cancer in '95, I had been able to find closure. I am still proud of him for his World War II courage and heroism and, yes, at times, I miss him despite some horrible stuff that went on in our family.

Although I am not 'encouraging' divorce per se Kalni, I am saying that you deserve to be happy. "Staying together for the sake of the children" is not always the best choice. The bottom line, again, is that no one is saying that a marriage can't be saved, but, you DO need to committed people two make it work.

Yiassou

FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;